Saturday morning, July 22nd. We forced ourselves not to be nervous. Ionut ( my husband -now) is tossing and turning in bed, because he promissed himself he will be so relaxed, that he would wake up at 11AM. So he is trying to sleep more.
I wake up very early in the morning anyway, although I don't feel nervous... or emotional. Today I slept until 9AM.
We realize that this seems to be one of the lazy weekends, when we have nothing to do... we drink our coffee for one hour... I do my yoga practice... until 11AM when I have an appointment to the hairdresser. When I get back, "the authority" (Ionut) agrees with the final result in my hair, so there's peace in the house :D. Only my wedding God Mother is getting her make up done (in Romania, when we get married, we choose a couple that will be our God Parent after the wedding. Once you get married, your God Parent become your spiritual parents, for the couple).
I'm next for make up.
Later
on, we are leaving to the church. In the meantime, the house got a bit
more crowded, our friends came, both God Parents (it was pretty
difficult for me to understand that we need to leave the house to church
with so many people around us - I really had in mind that it will be
just the two of us, but ok... apparently this is how it's done here :))
). Anyway, it was strange that our friends came anyway at 2PM, dressed
and all ready to go, when usually, 2PM is their wake up hour on
Saturdays :))
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| photo credit Marian Nadu |
The truth is that, once I did it once, it gets easier. Let me explain myself. At the civil ceremony, when I legally got married, I was expecting to be overwhelmed by my emotions, so then, I would walk more difficult, because this is what usually happens since my MS symptoms got worse. With that in mind, I've tried something: " What if... I would just enjoy, without feeling that my head will explode of enthusiasm?":)) So I saw that IT IS POSSIBLE. And that I felt ok for the rest of the day, even in the following days, when I cool down. Because even if usually, I experienced relapse with MS after a stressful period, I noticed that it happened also too much ecstasy. Not as bad, however it happened. My conclusion was that I go to relapse whenever I live very strong emotions, positive or negative.
During my wedding day, I knew I will experience a heavy emotional charge. Just thinking of all the people I would see again, after a long time, that would come especially for us. Many traveling from foreign countries, even from other continents! Per se, this feeling was overwhelming.
So I realized that I learned to enjoy things in a balanced manner :). To stay present, and keep my head in its place. Of course, I don't mean not to feel emotions. I laughted, I cried, and I stayed present.
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| photo credit: Marian Nadu |
In the past years, I saw how organizing a wedding meant constant stress for one year before the party. I did my best so that it wouldn't be my case. I couldn't afford a prolonged stress. I wanted to be "functional" for the wedding, but also after that.
I think very important it was that Ionut was on the same page. For both of us, the purpose was no stress, and more than that, we really had fun in planning the wedding!
Even when it came to the bride's dance, although I do admit we had some struggles here! Good that everything stayed in between the walls of our living room, where we also made up! :D
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| rehearsal June 22nd in our living-room |
Critical: planning and deadlines. Since we started planning the wedding I created an Excel file (long-live Excel!) with all our expenses, estimated and real, distributed by month. In the end we had a huge file, but we were in peace we wouldn't miss a thing.
More than this, we really acted as a team. Me - with "project management", deadlines etc (have not worked in a multinational company for so many years for nothing!) , him - going to places, talking to people, negotiating with the restaurant (it is his field, and this is what he loves doing)
In the end, we felt great planning the wedding, and also enjoyed the party. In Romania, we have something called "ciorba de potroace" - means kind of a party that takes place the following day, where the guests wake up from the hungover , and this is where the groom and the bride actually have fun (it is considered that the wedding party is more for the guests, not the groom and bride). I never attended to what they call "ciorba de potroace", not sure they do it nowadays, and I don't agree to this statement, that the part is not for groom/bride. We really had such a good time! Everything came out perfectly, just as we wanted to, and we are even happier that we did everything from scratch, not needing help from relatives etc.
And yes, it was the best wedding I've ever attended :D
Love,
Florenta
